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How to Cope With Toxic Relatives



College is extremely stressful and overwhelming no matter how good your time management skills are. All breaks and holidays are welcomed with open arms by most college students. How could anyone not want to go home? Well, for some people, college, no matter how stressful, is a safe place. School breaks are great times to refresh yourself but for many people they also mean going back home to emotionally draining relatives.

If this is the case for you, here are some tips on how to sustain your mental health and survive your break :

Keep in touch with your support group and other trusted peers

Spend time  with your friends and trusted family members . If meeting up with them and talking in person can’t be done, call them, text them, Skype, or keep in touch through social media. Whatever the case, make sure you have someone to vent to. If you don’t have anyone you can trust or they are unavailable, there are online resources (such as and the Vent app) where you can anonymously vent or listen to other people vent.



Occupy yourself

Time goes by excruciatingly slow when you’re stuck in a stressful and draining environment. To help time go by faster, do some sort of daily activity. You can catch up on all those books you have on your shelf, have movie marathons, watch shows you’ve been putting off, start drawing again, or learn a new skill. These activities will keep you occupied and can be therapeutic when you’re feeling sad or frustrated.


Take time alone /Self Care

Recharging is vital. Listen to relaxing music or meditate. Anything to ease your mind. Take this time to remind yourself that you matter, that your worth is not defined by someone else, and that you have people who care for you. Be gentle and kind with yourself. Take care of your body. Remember that the break is temporary and you will be back to your safe place soon.



Lastly, if your situation grows worse, please don’t be afraid to seek help from outside resources. Your safety and health are crucial. Here are some resources:

National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433)

Both toll-free, 24-hour, confidential hotlines which connect you to a trained counselor at the nearest suicide crisis center.

Safe Place: 1-888-290-7233

Project Safe Place provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for young people in crisis through a network of qualified agencies, trained volunteers, and businesses in 32 states.

The Trevor Project: 866-4-U-TREVOR

The Trevor Project operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) youth. The Trevor Helpline is available as a resource to parents, family members, and friends of young people as well.


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