The end of high school and start of college can be a very exciting time in your life. You finally get the freedom you’ve been craving since you hit the teenage years, and get to choose what classes you can take. It’s time to say hello to new beginnings, new friendships, and new opportunities. But sometimes, it’s also time to say goodbye.
The people you met in high school were a part of your life five days a week for four years. It’s expected that you would grow close to some of them. Together, you suffered through boring lectures, enjoyed the good ones, stressed over finals, and procrastinated on homework. It’s the perfect way to bond, because you have your daily life in common. However, when you go to college that all changes. You don’t see each other everyday anymore, and you may not even be in the same state as them any longer. You have different goals and different schedules. You lose contact, and may grow apart. Remember, this is normal. It’s okay to grow and develop different interests. It doesn’t have to mean that you aren’t friends anymore. It just means there are more differences to be acknowledged. It will be hard to get used to this change. It will take time. But it will happen.
What happens though, when a friendship does end completely? When someone you were close to fades from your life and becomes a memory?
I’ll tell you what happens: Life goes on.
I’ve lost three close friends this year, and they all ended our friendship differently. I still look back on our friendships fondly, even the ones that ended roughly. I’ve forgiven those who upset me because holding on to anger takes a lot of time and energy. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you have to let them back into your life; it simply means you let go of that grudge you’ve been holding for two years. Sometimes, letting go of someone is the healthiest thing you can do.
If you lose friends, you will miss them, and it’s perfectly okay. Just because they are no longer an avid part of your life doesn’t change that you care about them. Perhaps you had a disagreement. Perhaps you just don’t match up anymore. It happens. But you will move forward, and so will they. Don’t dwell on what could have been. As cliché as it is to say this, what’s meant to be will be. If they are meant to be a part of your life, they will find a way back to you. If your paths don’t cross again, cherish the memories you do have with them. Look back on your friendship and smile. Don’t let the fact that it ended turn good memories to bittersweet ones.